Wandering Aimlessly From Room to Room
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New queer rights around the world : 2023 edition 🏳️🌈✨️🏳️⚧️
Finland : adopted a law to facilitate transition, no longer requiring sterilization or psychological evaluations
Hong Kong : ruled in favor of the change of one’s gender identity without requiring surgery
Spain :
- no longer requires a medical advice to transition
- lowered the minimum age required to transition to 16 (12-13yo will need a judge’s authorization and 14-15yo will need to be accompanied by their parents)
- banned genital mutilation on intersex children
- banned conversion therapies
- provided state support for lesbians and single women seeking IVF treatment
South Korea : ruled in favor of a gay couple demanding equal health insurance rights with heterosexual couples, recognizing the legal status of gay couples for the first time in the country
Slovakia : no longer requires a chirurgical procedure to transition
Cook islands : decriminalized homosexuality
Portugal : passed a law banning conversion therapies and reinforcing gender identity self-determination in schools
France : HIV positive people can now enlist in the army
Taiwan : opened adoption to same-sex couples
Mexico : issued its first non-binary passport
Cyprus : banned conversion therapies
Namibia : supreme court ruling recognizes same-sex mariages contracted in other countries
Estonia : legalized same-sex marriage
Nepal : legalized same-sex marriage
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Look I clown veganism often enough but really, truly, don’t ever fucking feed somebody something without their knowledge or consent. It’s hugely fucked up and not OK.
also if someone hasn’t eaten meat in a while… or ever… they will get incredibly sick if they just start eating meat again.
|| Please don’t do this. Not just with vegans/ vegetarians, but with ANYONE you don’t know very well. You never know what they may or may not be allergic to, their abilities o(or lack thereof) to digest certain things, dietary needs and restrictions, religious beliefs requiring them to abstain from the consumption of certain foods and about a thousand other things.
Some people are legitimately allergic to thd proteins in certain meats and can’t even eat anything cooked in the same pan as X meat product/s.
I’m vegan but couldn’t care less if others aren’t, not an overwhelming number of (not all, just alot, unfortunately) non vegans find things like this funny.
Quick reminder: Sometimes people say “I’m vegan” or “I’m vegetarian” because its easier/faster/begets fewer annoying questions than the longer explanation.
As an epidemiologist I can list a few of the more annoying longer explanations that no one wants to have to explain to every person who ever offers them food:
- You drank water contaminated with giardia, which gave you 3 weeks of diarrhea followed by 3 years of lactose intolerance
- You were bitten by a Lone Star Tick and developed an allergy to beef and pork because the Lone Star Tick is a bastard
- You are Jewish and the meat isn’t kosher, but you don’t want to say that because antisemitism is A Thing and you don’t want to get bombarded with questions about the Middle East while you’re hungry
- You are Muslim and the meat isn’t halal, but you don’t want to say that because Islamophobia is A Thing and you don’t want to get bombarded with questions about the Middle East while you’re hungry
- You are on a restricted diet for medical reasons and don’t want to get bombarded with questions about your medical history while you’re hungry
- You are on a restricted diet for reasons that *are nobody’s business* and don’t want to get pulled into Potentially Triggering Diet Talk while you’re hungry.
Listen. Food can be very very complicated for people, and a very very very sensitive subject. Respect people’s food restrictions. None of it is your business.
I was one of the people who ordered something decaf at Starbucks only for them to have made it caffeinated and seem to have put in at least a couple shots of espresso and spent the day having panic attacks. Don’t do this shit to people
Also, even if it won’t harm them at all, if you respect people’s bodily autonomy then you can’t compel them to eat something without their consent (and knowledge is necessary for consent)
Basic rule of thumb for the people for whom someone elses bodily autonomy and consent aren’t enough reason:
Do not feed anyone anything you don’t want to have to answer for in court.
They may be ordering soy milk because they feel fancy about it.
Our they may order it because if you give them regular milk, they might die there and then and you killed them. Whether you intended that to be the outcome or not it’s irrelevant.
They may order gluten free because it’s so trendy.
Or they may do it because eating gluten means huge pain and, if repeated, irreversible damage to their internal organs.
They may be ordering meat-free because it makes them feel superior.
Or they might have some trauma related to eating meat that could lead to them gagging or even throwing up trying to eat meat, not to mention potentially giving them mental problems.
And for all these cases there are in-betweens.
I drink regular milk with no trouble whatsoever but I do like some of the plant-based alternatives as well. It’s variety.
However, whatever scenario we talk about, violating someone’s trust and consent is bound to make their day worse and you should not do that under any circumstances.
“I didn’t know it was for real” is not gonna bring anyone back from the dead and in any justice system worth the paper it’s laws are printed on its not going to help you in front of the court.
Respect people’s choices, people have the right to eat or not eat whatever they want
I’m allergic to soy. I didn’t know this until I was 28 or so. Before that, I avoided soy because my Mom had inflammatory breast cancer that could be exacerbated by soy. So soy was monitored in my house. Then I moved to Taiwan. I tried roasted edamame beans, and they were delicious. And made me so sick to my stomach. Vomiting and diarrhea and just feeling terrible. I thought I just got sick (flu, stomach bug, etc.) But it kept happening. Tofu, edamame, soy milk. Didn’t matter, it made me ill. So, I quickly learned the phrase “buyao soya” (I don’t like soy).
I had made friends with a big group of expat English teachers. And several were rabid vegans. I would mention when we went out to eat that I could not have soy as I was allergic. This was of course met with scoffs, because “no one’s allergic to soy!” Fun fact, it’s one of the major food allergens.
One day, a friend’s band was playing at a vegan place, and I was there with some friends. We were doing a group order, and I told them just to not order me anything with soy, but I had to run to the toilet. I came back and the food came. My friends asked me how it was, and I said it was good. The looked smug, and said, we knew you’d like tofu if you just had it right! I was so upset. I had to stop eating everything, and not 30 minutes later, I am back in the toilet sick as anything. My friends couldn’t understand why I was so sick. I finally said,“ Would you feed someone peanuts if they had a peanut allergy?” No, of course not! “Then why,” I asked, “did you think it was ok to trick me into eating soy when it makes me sick?” I told them I couldn’t trust them anymore, and now I was going to miss a friend playing in his band. I apologized to my friend, explained what happened, and said I’d catch their next performance. I was sick for two days.
Oddly enough, there was a vegetarian place that I loved, but I would always say buyao tofu/soya, and they finally said, “You always say buyao soya, do you not like it?” I told them, “No, I like it, but it does not like me!” They laughed, but understood that I had a food allergy, and from then on they would say, “Oh, don’t get that one, it has soya! You can’t have it!”
I have my own food sensitivities though mine are mostly texture based though some are based on crap my digestive system does though I tend to bully my digestive system whenever it says enough fried turkey because I am going to eat my salty greasy food I need the salt and the lipids because I am thin and have low blood pressure
Gonna add one here that I think this website probably skews too young for most people to have to think about yet:
As you get older, certain foods may just become impossible to eat.
My grampa hit a point in his seventies where he couldn’t eat steak anymore. He liked the flavor! He wasn’t allergic! He just…wasn’t able to chew and swallow it. And yes, he still had most of his own teeth–his body just went “fuck all this” one day. I’m running into problems with garlic now, in my thirties, where most of the time I can eat it just fine but once in awhile for absolutely no reason I’ve been able to isolate it decides it’s going to ruin my life for the next twelve hours, and I won’t eat garlic-rich foods when I’m out and about or have company anymore. If I have to stay within arm’s reach of the bathroom at home, whatever, that’s the price I pay for eating my own homemade sauces and that’s what the ability to play 2048 on your phone is for. If I’m out shopping, though…you see where this is going.
It’s entirely possible the answer to “why won’t you eat that” is “because bodies are weird.”(via blog-sliverofjade)
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Hey I'm sort of curious. I haven't read the book, but I'm a fan of the show and was genuinely disappointed that the phrase "going Native" had an exclusively negative connotation when I watched. Idk if this occurred to you or not, but that's pretty blatant racism. It's especially tone deaf considering this is a show about angels and demons - which have been a tool to commit genocide against us for upwards of 500 years.
Why not just use "human"? It's accurate and doesn't frame an entire demographic as inherently bad or undesireable.
Not trying to garner any ill will, it just rlly bummed me out bc I'm Native and it's an identity I wear with great pride bc ppl have tried countless times to rip it away from me. To see it treated with such disdain was very hurtful.
I understand your concerns, and do not wish to minimise them, or your hurt. Obviously the phrase has colonial roots. However, it’s a lower case N, and isn’t intended to talk about Native Americans. When the angels talk about Aziraphale “going native”, this is the meaning they are using. It may be negative for the grumpy angels, but it’s positive for humanity and for Aziraphale and Crowley.
From Mirriam Webster online:
go native
idiom
: to start to behave or live like the local people
After a few weeks, she was comfortable enough to go native and wear shorts to work.
Example Sentences
Recent Examples:
But dogs that go native make bad guards, hunting companions, and friends.—David Grimm, Science | AAAS, 29 Oct. 2020
Let your yard go native: The Cuyahoga Soil & Water Conservation District is offering seven native plant kits for sale that are adapted to the local climate and do not require excess watering or fertilizer once they are established.—Joan Rusek, cleveland, 6 July 2020
as an Apache studying cultural anthropology, I actually find the concept of “going native” to be very interesting! The meaning of the phrase has changed a lot. Although it was often used negatively, once cultural anthropology was more established and less armchair anthropology, it was more of a negative because it meant the study was no longer really valid, rather than because they had become “less white”.
Someone who has “gone native” had lost objectivity, and probably overly affected the culture they were studying. From an academic standpoint, that can be a big deal, because you no longer have access to the culture in its unaffected form.
In many earlier examples, it also meant an anthropologist had become romantically or sexually involved with a member of the group, which was seen as a sort of consent/hierarchy issue. Can you have an ethical relationship with someone you’re studying? Most anthropologists say no, but a lot did anyway. (Bronislaw Malinowski’s diaries are a great and disgusting example of this)
I do think it can be very accusatory, but it’s also an accepted anthropological technique for an non ethnocentric anthropologist. Although the term was originally colonial, and is still used by many in that way, it’s also a vital part of what anthropologists should do. We must assume the foundation and actions of a culture are rational. If I’m invited to participate in a ritual, then I should, because that will grant me greater insight. If I’m on a study and become ill, I would consult local healers, not to patronize them, but because I believe that they also have valuable knowledge.
to go native used to mean to lose yourself, but now it means to value others.
Anyway, hopefully this made sense, and was at least vaguely interesting. I didn’t directly address GO, but hopefully my example is clearly applicable. If not, oh well.
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The people who are like “why are you wishing death on these billionaires?!” are not understanding what is going on. It’s one thing to wish death on people and it’s another thing to have no sympathy for people who died in a situation they were cautioned heavily to not do.
I don’t want anyone to die, to be truthful; but here are the facts:
- That sub is 2 miles down in the ocean where the pressure is immense and the temperature is unbearable.
- The Titanic wreckage is literally 111 years old. The Titanic is wasting away and any slight jarring on her will cause her to collapse in that space. This is not new news.
- The safest way to experience the Titanic’s wreckage is looking through archives OR going to the museum. I know it would be astounding to look at in person, but… no.
- Most importantly, the wreckage is also a graveyard. People’s bones disintegrated because of the pressure and salinity of the water, but the shoes, that were treated with tannic acid, remain. Anybody with common sense knows that you don’t go an disturb and desecrate graveyards. You just don’t.
So, no… I feel zero sympathy for those people who should’ve just been told “no” more often in their life.
{EDIT: The 19 year old is the only one to get sympathy from me. Suleman deserved better. That’s it}
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everyone come read this its adorable
(via blog-sliverofjade)
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you know those posts talking about how theres probably a poem somewhere in the image of glow in the dark stars being painted over in landlord white etc? thats how i feel about the submarine filled with rich people that was lost while journeying to the wreck of the titanic. it just feels cyclical, a tragedy turned into a spectacle, turned into a tragedy, turned into a spectacle again. and also about how 39% of first class passengers died aboard the titanic while 76% of third class passengers died. about how a migrant vessel off the coast of Greece sank with hundreds feared dead while help was denied at every turn and how the whole world is rallying to the cause of the missing titan. about how the titanic was often hailed as unsinkable, about the arrogance of power and the lower class bodies left in its wake.
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Honestly my best advice for any trans woman coming here from Twitter is to obviously install shinigami eyes so that you can tell who’s a crypto terf or whatever. But also to genuinely just search terf and radfem keywords and just go down the list and block like 300 people.
And then to take that a step further (because no amount of blocking is enough unfortunately) when they start interacting with your content, don’t just block that person, take the time to go through their blog and block who they reblog from. Then if you notice one name popping up in the notes more than usual, go to that person’s blog and do the same thing.
Deny then access. Don’t prune the weeds, scorch the earth.
Boosting this for all the new reddit girlies
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